I’ve struggled with this for most of my life. There was always someone with better grades, that was better at math, taller and had nicer hair. It seems normal to compare yourself with your classmates when you are in school, but it doesn’t stop there. You grow up and then you realize that your friends are more successful than you. They have better jobs, more money, a nicer house or a bigger family. If you go down that road, it will be hard to stop.
Comparison is human and we all do it. When you are a blogger or an online business owner and you are surrounded by successful people, it’s even easier to feel that you are the only one that isn’t successful. No matter how hard it is, you should stop comparing yourself to others and find your own way in the blogging world. Here are a few tips to help you:
Stop reading other blogs
If you’re like me, you probably spend a lot of time reading other blogs. I always find great posts on Pinterest or Bloglovin and the list of blogs I follow with Feedly is growing rapidly. Just as you, I read these blogs because they are great sources of inspiration or I simply enjoy them.
The problem for me starts when they post about their successes. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m really happy for them, but I can’t help comparing myself to them. It looks so easy for them. Why do I struggle so much?
Does this sound familiar? I’m sure we’ve all been there at least once. When you are reading too many blogs, you will start seeing successful people everywhere and you’ll stop concentrating on your work. The best thing you can do is to stop reading so many blogs and focus on your own. Amazing things will happen when you manage to distance yourself from your competition and find your own way.
Keep track of your successes
When you are comparing yourself to more successful people, it’s easy to lose track of all those great things you’ve achieved. You are probably thinking that you haven’t done anything important. I also tend to think like that, but it isn’t true. We all have unique experiences, we all have accomplishments, it doesn’t matter how big or small they are.
I’m always happy when I manage to figure out how to do something that’s been bothering me for months, when a customer leaves a positive review or when one of my posts is shared by many people on Pinterest.
Those huge achievements that people often talk about don’t come every day. Though your days are probably filled with many small happy moments that will give you the motivation to keep blogging or freelancing.
Try to see the big picture
When you read success stories, you usually hear about all the good things, but very few people talk about the bad parts. We often don’t know how much experience a person has when they decide to start a business. It’s much easier to grow your business when you don’t have to spend a lot of time putting together a portfolio. We also don’t know how many failed blogs your competition has, while you are just beginning.
Talking about your struggles is hard. People also don’t like to talk about failures because they are afraid of losing readers or clients. Your favorite bloggers don’t share everything that’s happening behind the scenes, and even when they do, they might choose not to share the very bad parts.
Don’t you hate seeing those perfect Instagram desks when your own is a mess? Nobody is that perfect. We share snippets of our lives, often using a pretty filter. You can’t compare your unique story to a moment in someone else’s life.
Your competition can be a source of inspiration
One of the reasons I keep reading a lot of blog posts is that a lot of these bloggers that sometimes make me feel discouraged are actually a great source of inspiration. They are often great bloggers and business owners. They are hard working people that you can look up to if you manage to stop comparing yourself to them.
You can even try to get in touch with them by leaving comments on their posts or by sharing the articles you love on social media. Networking is essential for growing your blog and your readers will benefit from this too.
Of course, if you feel that this only makes things worse, it’s better to just stop reading those blogs and focus on your own.
Take a break
I feel that breaks are wonderful solutions to every possible problem one might have. It’s probably not like that, but if you are too overwhelmed by posts you see on Pinterest or Twitter, it might be time to take a break from it.
You can log off from social media or even go out for a while. A change in surroundings will always help you see things differently.
You are your biggest competition
Let’s face it, we all feel the need to compare our journey with someone else’s. So why can’t that someone be you? Instead of focusing on others, you should look back and see how much progress you have made. Try to grow a little bit each day and learn to celebrate every little success.
What do you do to stop comparing yourself to others?